Purity

1 Corinthians 3:16
Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Romans 8:4-5
4 in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. 5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit.

Ephesians 5:1-5
1 Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. 2 And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. 3 But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. 4 Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. 5 For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God;

Psalm 119:9
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.

1 Corinthians 6:18–20
[18] Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. [19] Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, [20] for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Corinthians 7:1-40 – READ THE WHOLE CHAPTER
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. …

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

Proverbs 4:23
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

Matthew 19:8-12
[8] He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. [9] And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”

[10] The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” [11] But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. [12] For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”

Sexual sin is different:  When it comes to sexual sin it says to FLEE SEXUAL IMORALITY.

1 Corinthians 6:12–20

Flee Sexual Immorality

[12] “All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything. [13] “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. [14] And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. [15] Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! [16] Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” [17] But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. [18] Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. [19] Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, [20] for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

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Here’s something to consider for guys.
Her parents don’t own her, but they have been called by God to be good stewards of the child God has given them. We have been called to protect the, provide for them, care for them, to keep their purity, and point them to Jesus. Are you willing to take on that stewardship. Do you realize the responsibility you have with that stewardship? This is really important. Right now we start out with as trust. I as a dad will completely trust you. Do you want to keep my trust? What do you think I will do if you break my trust? Another piece of advice, do set yourselves on an island separate from us. Our daughter and us are very close, and we have worked very hard at building a close relationship. We want you to join in and embrace our relationship, by getting to know us just as well. We want you to respect us in every way, we want you to make eye contact, we want you to go out of your way to make a good impression. Not over the top, but we want you to try. That means, you need to make conversation with us. When we ask questions, don’t give us one sentence answers.

Here’s something for you girls:
Don’t ignore mamma! That’s her boy, and she wants to know that you are going to care for him, that you are going to respect her boy, and that you are going to keep her in this relationship. She won’t be overbearing, she just wants to know that you care about her son. That you are not going to be overbearing. Let the guy breath a little, and spend some time with his friends. Do you also care about purity?

BOOKMARKS

Physical attraction is a part of dating, kissing, holding hands, dancing, etc. You need to set boundaries!!! From the neck to the knees are off limits. One exception, hand on her back. Every time you guys get together physically, you leave a bookmark. Just like in a book you go back to right where you left off. If she allows you to touch her, that’s the exact spot you will move to quickly, and then you will see how much further you can go. So we have said it, and there are no questions concerning touch. Just because you are not having sex, oral sex, touching, etc. is sex! If you did it to a perfect stranger, it would be considered sexual harassment. As a matter of fact, use that as a guide. Would a touch a perfect stranger that way?

There are more single people than married people than ever. By they time they turn 50, 1 and 4 will have been single all of their lives.

Key Questions about Singleness
Am I becoming less desirable as I get older?
Are there enough eligible people at our church?

The Bible affirms singleness.
1. Jesus was single
2. The apostle Paul: He was single because of the revelation of the person of Jesus and Him as a person.
3. Inherent dignity of the individual – Your value and dignity was not tied to your social standing in terms of having a family. It was Roman honor to build a line and legacy. Galatians 3:28 – There is neither Jew nor Greek, There is neither slave nor free, There is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Your value and dignity wasn’t tied to your social standing.

Advantages of being single
     •  Single people are spared the “troubles” of marriage.
     •  Single people can devote themselves more fully to God’s work: “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s  
         affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he
         can please his wife—and his interests are divided” (1 Cor. 7:32-34).

Singleness can be hard
When God saw Adam on his own in the Garden of Eden, he said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Gen. 2:18). So Eve was created to meet Adam’s need for companionship, and the two came together in the lifelong, sexual relationship of marriage. Although the New Testament is positive about singleness, there’s no doubt marriage is regarded as the norm. It is God’s loving gift to humanity and the chief context in which our desire for intimacy is met. Single people are therefore likely to struggle with loneliness and sexual temptation.

Single people are therefore likely to struggle with loneliness and sexual temptation. Those struggles are certainly not exclusive to the unmarried, but they are very much a part of the single condition. Some will seek to lessen them by getting married. Others will either choose not to marry or will feel unable to because of their circumstances, personality, or sexual attraction. They are likely to face a lifelong battle with loneliness and sexual temptation.

Verses
The Bible is very positive in the New Testament is about singleness. Paul speaks of it as a “gift”

1 Corinthians 7:7–9
[7] I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.
[8] To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. [9] But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 

And Jesus says it is good “for those to whom it has been given” 

Matthew 19:10–12
[10] The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” [11] But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. [12] For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” 

What the World has to say about Marriage.

Marriage is a form of legalized slavery and patriotic oppression – 
Aggressive Feminism has push back so hard with you don’t need a man at all.
Coming from a divorce background and you don’t want too go through that same brokenness.

1. Don’t smother a guy. It’s OK for him to hang out with your friends. He doesn’t have to be with you all the time. Don’t be possessive and clingy. They consider this obsessive or oppressive! It drives guys away. Don’t be possessive! You don’t own him and he doesn’t own you! You’re just dating. Give him enough space to come to you. Guys like their freedom. The best way to keep him is to gently keep your distance. He’ll like you even more!
2. Guys want to feel chivalrous. Allow him.
3. Guys don’t like gossip
4. Don’t swear
5. How do you treat your dad? Do you respect him? How you treat him is how you will treat your boyfriend.
6. Allow him to pay for the date.
7. Learn what he is interested in. Sports, teams, movies, music, etc.
8. Be a good listener. Don’t only talk about yourself and what you’re interested in. Remember, God gave you 2 ears and only 1 mouth, so listen twice as much as you talk! REALLY listen. Be really interested in what he says. It’ll show him you are interested in more than his looks. (What he feels is important more important than anything else in her life.) Then, you’ll find out whether you’d like to continue dating him.
9. NEVER try to solve his problem. He NEVER, NEVER, never, never, Never wants that. Men work out their problems by talking. But that’s weird. I understand. Men just needs you to listen. Be a GREAT listener!
10. Always be completely honest. Don’t lie. He likes it when you express your honest feelings. Guys want to feel loved too.
11. Don’t date 2 guys at one time. EVER!
12. Don’t be a completely different person when you’re with your friends and your guy approaches! Include him as your best friend. Never talk bad about him. 100% of all guys hate it when a girl gets around her friends, acts silly, ignores him and makes jokes about him.
13. If you want to break up, be strong. Have a very pleasant conversation in person with him telling him that he’s a great guy, but it really isn’t clicking for you. Of course he’ll hate you. But in the long term he will respect you! Attention: Do not break up with him by sending a text message or on Social Media. Hellooooo!

1. A Young Man’s Guide to Winning Behavior with Girls

   When in college, I’d often see gorgeous girls with goofy-looking guys. I couldn’t understand the attraction! What were those girls thinking? Now, I’m older and have found the secrets of how they got the girls. Much to my amazement, it’s just a combination of kindness, integrity and common sense.

   Would you like to know how to be more popular with girls?

   Let’s begin with common sense! Treat ladies well. Important: 

   Frankly, guys are visually oriented, but girls are basically interested in the heart. Therefore to please a girl, treat her well. It doesn’t cost anything, but gets tremendous results. Being older, I wish someone had taught me these things, so I wouldn’t have embarrassed myself so often.

   We’ve asked ladies from early teens through their 30s – what they like and dislike about guys. Seldom taught, their shocking answers are below. Pay attention to them and they’ll have great impact on your dating life. It might not make you a superstar, but girls will be impressed enough to keep you in the ballgame.

   HOW TO GET GIRLS INTERESTED IN YOU

   Someday you will get interested in a girl. You’re question may be “how do I get her interested in me?” The key is to remember girls look at the heart. This may not make any sense to you, but they like gentlemen. So, decide either to be a gentleman and have girls like you, or choose to be a caveman and see the smarter and more mature men get your girl. The choice is yours!

   1. Ladies love humble! They are very attracted to great guys who don’t have a high opinion of themselves. They like it when you go out of your way to make them part of your day. (It’s not sissy! Tim Tebow, Curt Warner and Aaron Rodgers are gentleman off the field and fierce competitors on the football field. Isaac Bruce is a hall-of-fame wide receiver, but a true gentleman.)

   2. Girls don’t like braggarts. (Arrogance and conceit is the only disease that makes everyone else sick except he who has it!) Don’t be a pretender – trying to make believe you’re rich, suave or extremely intelligent by using big words. You’re fooling nobody! Ladies like guys who are transparent – just open and nice. Don’t try to impress. Instead be impressive!

   3. Don’t swear. Fowl language is a major turn off. It is embarrassing and shows your lack of intelligence. Come up with better words to express yourself.

   4. Don’t be rude (uncaring) to anyone. Spectators feel sorry for people who are disrespected. You look like an idiot. Girls don’t like guys who talk negatively about others, to make themselves look good in comparison. This doesn’t work!

   5. Be courteous and nice to every girl, no matter her age. Girls take notice when someone is nice to them. “Chivalry is not dead!” You’ll get a great reputation and many more girls will respect you. Oh yes, a side benefit! In 2 years someone you are not currently interested in today could become the hottest babe in town!

   6. Be a gentleman to everyone. It’ll greatly impress her family. Remember, they have direct impact on how available she is to date you. Other girls will notice too!

   7. Always open doors for girls, so they can enter first. Make it a habit. It will become natural and smooth! As opportunity presents itself, help a girl on with her coat.  It’s a good way to increase her comfort level with you without getting too close. Why not also help anyone who is struggling with their coat, male or female. I’ve seen hundreds of young men miss terrific opportunities to cement their standing with ladies because they lack courtesy. In the long run these boys will simply be outmaneuvered by older and wiser men.

   Last night I saw a young man dragging his date inside a shopping mall by the hand in true caveman fashion. He just barely made it through the glass door as it was closing. She didn’t make it, banging her head and side into the door as it was closing. Don’t be a Cave Man!

   Some women might say “Don’t open the door for me. I can do it myself!” Your answer can be “I know you can. But, I just want to honor you and show you respect.”

   8. Protect girls from bugs. The definition of a bug is any small creature that walks, hops, flies or moves. 95% of all girls are afraid of them. They are also afraid of bees. Bees are defined as anything of any size that is perceived to have a stinger, include sweat bees, hornets, wasps and mud daubers. Killing any bug or bee within 15 feet of a girl, makes you a hero and earns you 10 points. Eating the dead bug/bee costs you all your points plus a 20-point penalty.

   9. Be a man and let the lady be a lady. Prissy guys are a big turn off, as are guys who dress in girly skin-tight fashions or wear make up to enhance their manly features. Girls like manly men which is why athletes are so popular. You might want to take up weight lifting. It’s good for your conditioning and your physique will be better. Don’t think you have to look like Arnold Swarzenegger. Just get more physically fit.

   10. Don’t mumble. Your words are important to them. They want to understand you.

   11. Ladies like security. Ladies want to know that a man can protect and take care of them. Security is a basic need for them. So, should you borrow money from a lady? NO. (You probably won’t pay her back anyway.) Security is why ladies prefer guys with jobs, good grades are athletic and talented. Sadly, some girls are gold diggers and just want your money. But smart ones know money is just temporary. They’re aware, good qualities cannot be lost. Remember: Don’t expect your girl to support you. She is not your Mother!

   USE COMMON SENSE

   Some things should always remain private. Most of these are related to bodily functions. No one would disagree that going to the bathroom or vomiting are best kept private. Here are some others:

   12. Belching and having gas is gross to a lady. For some unknown reason guys think it’s funny. Actually, it’s girl-repelling behavior. If you must break wind (pass gas) go some place private like a bathroom. Burping is easy to do silently and without opening your mouth. However, belching is opening your mouth to show off your mellow tone. Want to belch? Cross off the names of all classy girls on your list. (Someone I know used, used to stop his car, turn the radio up, then go to the back of the car to check “something” and let ‘er rip! Finally, he’d wait ‘til the wind had carried away any odor, before reentering the car. He said, “not once did a girl ever suspect anything.”)

   13. Don’t spit in a lady’s presence. Even worse is talking about your loogies.

   14. Girls say dried snot (boogers) and picking your nose is disgusting! At a well-known restaurant, one of the owners made pizza out in the open, so everyone could see. One night he had something up his nose that was bothering him. After picking it out, he proceeded to continue the pie making! Can you say “Blechhhhhh? When the pizza arrived everyone looked for green specs in the pizza. The restaurant closed a few months later.

   15. Cover your mouth when you yawn, cough or sneeze. Nobody (male or female) wants to see what’s in your mouth or get hit with spray from your saliva glands.

   16. Guard your breath to keep it fresh. A girl told me she met a gorgeous guy. But his breath was horrible – horrible all the time – an immediate turn-off and disqualifier. One of my best friends had been working for a company for years. But no one told him about his breath. He not only didn’t have any girl friends, but no one could stand to be around him. Because he was my good friend, I told him the truth. He went to the dentist and had to have most of his teeth removed, due to a periodontal disease. His breath returned to normal. If someone had told him earlier, his teeth could have been saved.

   a. Brush your teeth at least twice a day. (Advanced Hint: Peroxide on the toothbrush before putting on toothpaste, helps kill bacteria  causing bad breath. Don’t forget to brush your tongue as well. Its rough surface stores bacteria and old stinky food.)

   b. Keep your teeth free of “plaque.” Consistent brushing and flossing will keep it away. It causes tooth decay increasing bad breath.

   c. Have mints or gum handy. (A sweetener like Xylitol is natural and helps prevents cavities. Regular sugar leaves a bad aftertaste and bad breath the next morning.)  Thought: Chewing gum with your mouth closed is less noisy and classier that chewing with your mouth open.

   d. Avoid foods that cause bad breath like onions and garlic especially before a date. Even toothpaste and mouthwash cannot adequately cover up these odors. (Pizza, Tacos and Hamburgers leave you with wretched breath.)

   e. Smoking causes bad breath. In combination with coffee, it is nauseating. (A high school teacher introduced me to this wretched odor which I’ll never forget.)

   f. Chewing tobacco is a guarantee no girl will kiss you on the lips. Yuck! This also leads to cancer of the mouth. (Joe Garagiola a former Major League catcher got mouth cancer which ended his career as a guest host on NBC’s Today Show.) Also having ½ a tongue will not help you get a girl.

   17. Keep these private: Tucking in your shirt, zipping your pants, adjusting your underwear, doing the Michael Jackson or adjusting your package like baseball players, is not gentlemanly.

   WHO SHOULD YOU ASK FOR A DATE?

   As guys, we sometimes get mixed signals from girls. Some girls are just very nice people and don’t want to hurt a guy’s fragile ego! But that doesn’t mean they want to go out with you! Guys often make a mistake, thinking kindness means the girl wants to date them. Since guys are often rude to one another, we think a lady who is friendly, wants to go out with us! WRONG. She is just a very nice person. The guy that eventually marries her will be a very fortunate person indeed.

   On the other hand some guys believe they are God’s gift to women. Believe it or not, not every girl thinks you’re a “STUD.” Most girls have a nurturing instinct to take care of children, kitty cats, puppy dogs and sad guys. It doesn’t mean they want to date the puppy dog or you! These ladies will find excuses not to date you, so your ego doesn’t get hurt.

   18. Who wants to go out with you? It’s scary asking a girl out on a date. It’s difficult to know if she’s really interested. How can you know if she wants to go out with you? The answer is yes – IF;

   a. She flirts with you, by tilting her head and looking into your eyes just a little longer than usual;

   b. She finds a way to always be around you or “accidentally bump into you” (on purpose);

   c. She touches your arm and giggles at things you say that aren’t particularly funny;

   d. You catch her looking at you often; or

   e. She asks you questions about what you like or dislike or is just interested in everything you say.

   19. How can you tell if a girl doesn’t want to date you? You’re attracted to her. She’s friendly. But does she want to go out with you? Below are warning signs she likes you as a friend and not as a boyfriend. Caution: Take the hint and leave her alone or you’ll become her enemy.

   a. She always tells you that you’re a really good friend.

   b. She tells you about other girls you should date.

   c. She avoids you if she feels you are interested in dating her.

   d. She talks about other guys.

   e. She makes excuses not to go places with you.

   ADVICE WHEN PREPARING FOR A DATE

   Plan your date to have a memorable experience with an awesome lady. It might be good to do a little research about your date. (What kind of food and/or movies does she like? This can help you avoid what she doesn’t like.) Even if you never date her again, your reputation will be enhanced, because you know how to treat a lady. Hint: You don’t have to spend a lot of money to make a date memorable.

   20. Make a specific plan for any date – go to the movies, dance, dinner, etc. Know exactly what you’re going to do such as go to XYZ restaurant. Just don’t ask a girl to go out without a plan! (“Whata you wanna do?” “I don’t know. What do you want to do?” I don’t know. Whata you wanna do?” “I don’t know, whata . . .” ) Just hangin’ around the house repeatedly shows her, you haven’t taken time to concentrate on her. Hey! You could always take a romantic walk in a park.

   21. Ask for a date at least 3-7 days before the day you want to take her out. Why? Guys can throw on a new shirt and think they’re over dressed! But girls are much different! Girls say they need “time!” She might need time to get her hair/nails done or buy a new outfit. Did you know some girls can spend an entire day getting ready for a date with you?

   22. Clean yourself up before a date.

   a. Shower if possible. If unable, freshen up by washing your underarms with anti-bacterial soap like Dial or Safeguard. Don’t forget underarm deodorant!

   b. Wash your hands (cleaning under your fingernails) and face (to remove unseen body oils that stink). Trim your nails as well. Long fingernails collect dirt and are turn-offs!

   c. Wash your hair regularly. Girls detest greasy hair. It’ll make them cringe! (Long hair or short hair isn’t key. It’s a matter of style and personal preference. Just make certain it’s well groomed and trimmed.) (When I was a kid we used Brylcream, “a little dab‘ll do ya.” It made my hair greasy, so when I put my head against the chalkboard, it left a big greasy stain. No girl likes slimy.)

   d. Between hair cuts, the hair on your lower neck gets long and ugly. You can shave it with a regular razor and your haircut will last longer and you’ll appear better groomed.

   e. Watch out for dandruff. The little flakes are actually dry skin. Use dandruff shampoo to control it.

   f. Again, don’t forget about your breath. Avoid foods that cause bad breath like onions, curry and garlic especially before a date. If both of you eat these foods on a date, you’re mutually protected.

   g. Don’t just splash cologne or deodorant on your sweaty body to cover the smell. The odors just combine. Pew!

   h. Don’t put tons of cologne on. Just a trace is terrific. If they like the smell, they’ll want to get closer to you. Don’t try to compete with the perfume your date or other girls are wearing.

   i. Wash your hands after putting cologne on. When you shake hands with men or women, the smell transfers. Some hate the smell, are allergic to it, or may conflict with their cologne.

   23. Clean your ears with Q-Tips at least once a week after you shower. (Some girls say everyday.) Seeing orange ear wax is a huge turn off – Yuck!

   24. Wash your feet! There are also many foot odor remedies discussed in “Foot Odor Remedies: No More Stinky Feet” also posted on the EverydayChristianFamily.com website. Toe scum and toe jam are turn-offs when you’re wearing sandals, so are long toenails!

   25. Your shoes should look and smell clean (including the bottoms) and shined if possible. Be careful where you step, should you have a dog. You don’t want to bring in any unnecessary presents and odors into your car or your girl’s home. Socks should look and smell clean as well. Never wear a pair of socks for more than 1 day.

   26. Your clothes should be presentable – not faded and old, but clean, pressed and free of wrinkles, odors, dog/cat hair, etc. Clothes often look clean, but have been exposed to gasoline, grease, restaurant, coffee and/or B.O. (body) odors. Just this evening in a fancy shopping mall I saw very pretty girl, dressed impeccably with a young man dressed in a terribly wrinkled undershirt. He needs to get a clue.

   27. Dress sharp and nice not flashy. Don’t try to look better than your girl. You are not a peacock! Your attention should be on her!

   28. Don’t forget to wear a belt. It holds your slacks in place and helps you avoid the dreaded “plumber’s butt” syndrome. It’s a key accessory of all well-dressed gentlemen.

   OK, YOU’RE READY FOR THE BIG DATE

   My Dad told me once that he took a girl to a movie, followed up with a great meal at a restaurant. Took her dancing and capped it off with dessert. I asked him if he kissed her. He said “No. I already did enough for her.” A humorous story, but seriously, take every opportunity to make this date the best day in a girl’s life. She’ll remember it for years!

   29. Going on a date? Drive if you’re old enough. If you don’t have a car, double date with a safe driver who has a car. My most embarrassing date was with a beautiful senior girl who drove me (a sophomore) to Homecoming. How humiliating!

   30. Prepare your car as for a Queen. Think of it as trying to impress the most important person in the world. You don’t need a fancy car, just a very clean one. No matter who your date is – she IS that important!

   31. It may seem old fashioned but guys should always pay for the date. If you don’t have money, it’s not a bad idea to get a part-time job, or find creative ways to lower the cost, i.e. go on a picnic instead of going to a restaurant.

   32. Be on time for the date or any meeting. It’s better that you wait for her, than for her to wait for you. She is just putting the finishing touches on her clothes and makeup to please you! Just enjoy that she is there. Plan ahead and arrive just a couple of minutes early.

   33. If it’s cold outside, warm up your car for a lady. She’ll appreciate your thoughtfulness. Believe it or not, it’s the little things that make her feel special and make you more attractive.

   34. Always open a car door for a girl. If it is rainy or snowy, drop her off at the door of any destination. These are little acts of thoughtfulness she will love.

   35. When a girl is cold, give her your coat. It’ll have great impact and make her feel “cared for.”

   36. Engage her first in conversation. It’ll put her at ease. It takes away the awkwardness. She’ll carry it from then on. You just need to get the conversation started with questions that she’s interested in or that are about her. Remember, to leave any personal issues at home, including arguments with your parents, old girlfriends, frustrations, etc.

   37. Be a GREAT listener! Don’t only talk about yourself and what you’re interested in. Remember, God gave you 2 ears and only 1 mouth, so listen twice as much as you talk! REALLY listen. Be really interested in what she says. It’ll show her you are interested in more than her looks. (What she feels is important more important than anything else in her life.) Then, you’ll find out whether you’d like to continue dating her.

   38. NEVER try to solve her problem. She NEVER, NEVER, never, never, Never wants that. Ladies work out their problems by talking. But that’s weird. I understand. She just needs you to listen. (Most men never seem to learn this until they’re 50!) Again, be a GREAT listener!

   39. When you’re with a girl, give her your total attention! Keep your eyes on her and her eyes only! No one else should matter at all. (And don’t check out her body, or you’ll seem like a creep.) Don’t be text messaging or talking on your cell phone when you’re with your girl. If a call is urgent, say “please pardon me. I need to take this call.”

   40. Take the opportunity to complement the way she looks in her outfit, NEVER the dress or outfit by itself.

   41. When putting your arm around her in a movie, don’t hit her in the nose with your elbow. It’ll make her eyes water.

   42. Common courtesy says “don’t touch a girl’s face or hair.” She has spent hours making it look special for you. She WILL get very angry!

   43. Don’t go into a girl’s purse. She has things in there that might be embarrassing. STAY OUT!

   44. Be careful of a girl’s feet. Your shoes are big and heavy. Hers are made for beauty and to attract you. Let them do their work. When I was first dating my wife, I stepped on her foot and broke her toe. She had a great deal of trouble walking for days.

   45. When walking with a girl, walk at her pace. High-heel shoes help girls look beautiful, but they’re not easy to walk in. You’re not in a race, so just walk at her pace and enjoy her beauty.

   46. Pay attention to no-go zones! Sexual advances are discourteous and a “turn off”. You may touch her hands, arms, shoulders and back (upper & middle) only. All other places are an invasion of privacy! I recently saw a 13-yr-old boy walking with a girl in a store. His hand moved down onto her rear. She was noticeably uncomfortable. If the girl’s father had been watching, he would have “punched the kid’s lights out!” This is very disrespectful “All I’m askin’ for is a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T.”

   47. No arms or elbows on the table when eating. Don’t guard your food as if protecting it from wild animals. Take one hand and place it on your lap while you’re eating, unless you’re cutting your food. When eating at school use the same good manners. Good manners will become a habit and will even help you get a job later in life.

   48. Eat like a gentleman. Remember, you’re not in a race. How do you eat chicken and french fries? With a knife and fork. Never learned? Start practicing now. It’s difficult, but will readily set you apart from all other guys. TIP: When ordering food, always order her’s first, then choose something that you can eat with a knife and fork. Sandwiches sometimes are too large and messy leaving lots of residue on your face and hands. (Then your hands will smell like the burger.)

   49. Don’t talk with your mouth full. First of all, you can’t be understood. Secondly, pieces will fly out of your mouth into your date’s soup. After they submerge, she can’t locate them to remove ‘em. Actually, no one likes to see the mixture of the food and saliva inside your mouth. It’s really gross! Don’t believe the ladies? Fill you mouth with chewed food and look in the mirror with your mouth open.

   50. After eating remove the food between your teeth. Go to the restroom armed with a toothpick to make certain your smile doesn’t include a piece of green lettuce or other residue between your front teeth.

   51. Before ending the date, try to find her an unexpected souvenir. It might be a small figurine, a pebble she tripped on, or just something (not gross) that made you both laugh. She’ll add it to her collection and remember you!

   AFTER YOUR SUCCESSFUL DATE

   52. Sending a good morning text message is very thoughtful and starts a girl’s day out on a happy note. “I had a wonderful time last night. Hope your day is special.” Goodnight texting is questionable until you have established a strong relationship with her.

   53. Do something unexpected and nice for your date when you get the chance. For some reason ladies like cards and notes that have something short and sweet on them like – “you make me smile.” They’ll keep these cards and look at them for years.

   54. Although ladies love flowers and press them in books, if you can find something more permanent, it’ll make her remember you for years. Every time she sees the present, it’ll remind her of you. Here are some suggestions from a lady: a candle; picture frame, or journal. (As a guy, I think this sounds stupid. But girls are experts on what pleases them. If it were just me, I’d just get her something useful like a pipe wrench or a baseball.)

   MAINTAINING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR GIRL

   There are times when combining the ideas, thoughts, goals, preferences and attitudes of two different people can be taxing. You want to watch football and she wants to watch a “chick flick.” If you get your way and watch the football game, you’ll lose! If you get stuck watching the “chick flick,” you’ll win. Guaranteed! Remember, whoever loses an argument actually wins!

   55. If she buys you cologne and you hate it – wear it for her. If she suggests you wear a certain cologne. Get it! She’ll want to be near you when you’re together.

   56. If she makes food for you and it doesn’t taste good – eat it anyway, smile and tell her how much you appreciate all the work she did for you!!! This will encourage her. She knows it isn’t very good, but will try harder next time.

   57. Always be completely honest with your girl. Don’t lie. She also likes it when you express your honest feelings and just say pleasant things like “besides being beautiful, you’re such a nice person!” I heard girls say “Awwwwww.” You just scored 10 points.

   58. Don’t tell your a girl how pretty another girl is. It makes her feel like she’s your second choice.

   59. Go with only 1 girl at a time. Girls hate “players” and “cheaters,” even though guys think it’s cool. You’re gonna get caught! Count on it! You destroy relationships, lose your credibility with both girls and are never again trusted. (Once I dated a freshman and a junior at a huge University at the same time. Can you believe it? They had a trampoline class together. And they stood next to each other. And they talked about their boyfriend . . . and I got in big trouble from both of them! Ouch!!!

   60. Don’t be possessive and clingy. They consider this obsessive or oppressive! It drives girls away. Don’t be possessive! You don’t own her and she doesn’t own you! You’re just dating. Give her enough space to come to you. Girls like their freedom. Surprise! The best way to catch a girl is to let her catch you! The best way to keep her is to gently keep your distance. She’ll like you even more!

   61. Don’t Ever Strike A Girl. It’s never acceptable! If there’s any violence in a relationship, end it now! If you’re frustrated, quit going out with her. I’m serious as a heart attack!

   62. Don’t be a completely different person when you’re with your friends and your girl approaches! Include her as your best friend. Never talk bad about her. 100% of all girls hate it when a guy gets around his pals, acts goofy, ignores her and makes jokes about her. (This is the #1 complaint I heard from girls.) You should be consistent and protective about your girl. If your buddies make fun of you – saying you’re whipped, just say “You’re just jealous! If you had a girl this terrific, you’d be falling all over yourself. Do this and you’ll gain 20 points!

   63. When you want to break up, be a man. Have a very pleasant conversation in person with her telling her that she’s a great lady, but it really isn’t clicking for you. Of course she’ll hate you. But in the long term she will respect you! Attention: Do not break up with her by sending a text message or on YouTube. Hellooo!